Torin/Darren WhoEver ([info]wolfieboy) wrote,
2002-03-15 12:24:00
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Stoked on sapiosexuality

So, I'm really stoked that quite a few people are listing sapiosexuality as an interest. Considering that on Sunday, the 10th, there were only two people that had it listed as an interest. Today, there are nine. Not bad for a word that I invented in 1998.

I think much of this is the fault of [info]jadine and her entry from yesterday. In her entry, she asked what sapiosexuality meant and so I thought it might be good for me to attempt a definition as well.

Here's an e-mail that I sent out a while back on what I mean by sapiosexual. The message was in response to "What gender do you prefer in sex and/or a relationship?"

Me? I don't care too much about the plumbing. I want an incisive, inquisitive, insightful, irreverent mind. I want someone for whom philosophical discussion is foreplay. I want someone who sometimes makes me go ouch due to their wit and evil sense of humor. I want someone that I can reach out and touch randomly. I want someone I can cuddle with.

I decided all that means that I am sapiosexual. I want to fuck with peoples minds. :)

I invented this term while on too little sleep driving up from SF in the summer of '98 and I'm trying to propagate it as much as possible. So please use it when appropriate...

But where's the gender in all that? That people that I find like that also happen to have marvelous, wonderful bodies happens to be a perq. Flesh is fun...

So, this is what I mean by sapiosexual. The last two sentences of the first paragraph aren't really a part of sapiosexuality; they're just what I want.

So, to steal a line from jadine's journal, If you like this term, you may want to add it to your Interests list by clicking here.

Edit: When describing sapiosexuality to someone at the Grind, I came up with the phrase: "You can only fuck someone for so long (5-8 hours is finite) but you can talk forever."

Tags: sapiosexual, words

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[info]kytheriakhthoni

March 16 2002, 06:53:42 UTC 10 years ago

Cool new word

I will help you spead your meme.

[info]avivasedai

August 28 2002, 14:44:04 UTC 9 years ago

Re: Cool new word

Meme! Rock! I have memes that are viral; so is this one. It will infect many.

[info]skitten

March 16 2002, 09:41:18 UTC 10 years ago

Great word and definition!

I think I would take out the word sexuality if I were to use the term for my self. I may be physically attracted to men but I find myself attracted in all OTHER ways to the type of person you describe in your term.... Thanks to sheherezahde I've been introduced to your wonderful new word :) Thanks for creating it.

[info]jadine

March 16 2002, 10:38:32 UTC 10 years ago

Woo-hoo! Up to 12!

I like your description better than mine. I think I'll link it from my original post.

[info]ashley_y

March 26 2002, 17:29:04 UTC 10 years ago

I guess I'm pulchriheterosexual. God, I'm so shallow...

[info]estrangler

November 24 2003, 06:37:23 UTC 8 years ago

haha, i guess i'm pulchrisapiosexual then.

if i fuck your brains out, can i keep 'em?

[info]byrdie

April 17 2002, 12:09:07 UTC 10 years ago

Ooooh! You're up to 23 now. :)

[info]butterfly_smile

May 12 2002, 22:55:37 UTC 10 years ago

Add another one.......

[info]phoebek

May 13 2002, 01:00:16 UTC 10 years ago

Nice one

I will add it to the growing Suburban Intelligentsia Dictionary, which will soon be published online at the365.org (but isn't yet, so no use in checking). You'll be credited, of course.

[info]metaphorge

June 29 2002, 18:34:17 UTC 9 years ago

Re: Nice one

Very interesting... please give me more information on this project....

[info]wolfieboy

9 years ago

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[info]phoebek

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[info]carollondon

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[info]9thmoon

May 15 2002, 09:51:29 UTC 10 years ago

Count me in.

[info]mister_wolf

May 18 2002, 21:13:59 UTC 10 years ago

Neat idea. I like my women tough, cynical and witty. Does that count? Or does it have to transcend gender?

[info]wolfieboy

May 19 2002, 01:41:33 UTC 10 years ago

If you're applying it to yourself, you get to define as you like. To get any use out of the word, though, your definition needs to be similar without contradicting the important parts. In this case, the important part is intelligence. Gender is more of a don't-care attribute. I don't define gender since it doesn't apply to me. If it matters to you, then you should apply gender to the degree which makes you comfortable.

[info]bikerwalla

May 21 2002, 07:48:30 UTC 10 years ago

ME TOO!!!1

[info]raptelan

May 21 2002, 08:12:13 UTC 10 years ago

Brilliant word. Count me in as well.

[info]jadine

June 20 2002, 06:34:36 UTC 9 years ago

Wow, 80 users now.

[info]wolfieboy

October 9 2003, 18:00:30 UTC 8 years ago

Re: 80 users

Make that 298 users and 9 communities now. (It was 280 before [info]theferrett pimped it out.)

[info]metaphorge

June 29 2002, 18:17:48 UTC 9 years ago

A meme well worth spreading... I'm on board(as it were).

I've had similar success spreading the fabulous word infornography (it originally appeared in Serial Experiments Lain).

[info]wolfieboy

October 9 2003, 16:55:40 UTC 8 years ago

Re: Lain

Cindy and i are currently watching Lain since I gave her the DVD boxed set for her birthday. We've just seen "Discontinuity".

[info]moondragoness

June 30 2002, 01:30:41 UTC 9 years ago

your Marvelous Word has been posted to the community "bisexuality" (in case you didn't know this yet. ^^) And it's going on my interests list. :D

[info]madcaptenor

June 30 2002, 11:20:17 UTC 9 years ago

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF8&q=sapiosexual&btnG=Google+Search

google has apparently heard of sapiosexuality!
they hadn't last week.

[info]sleator

June 30 2002, 11:40:46 UTC 9 years ago

I don't know. I don't think it's specific enough. Give me a word for "emotionally attracted to intelligent women but not really emotionally attracted at all to men but physically attracted to both women and men". May I suggest heterocognibicorpisexuality?

[info]madcaptenor

July 1 2002, 18:21:32 UTC 9 years ago

way too long.
if you feel like you need that long of a label, you should just abandon labels. all they do is box us in anyway.

[info]sleator

9 years ago

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[info]nowishere

8 years ago

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[info]wolfieboy

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[info]nowishere

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[info]barigoddess

July 1 2002, 18:33:20 UTC 9 years ago

you creative genius you!
+Hugs+

[info]wolfieboy

October 9 2003, 16:54:26 UTC 8 years ago

Re: you creative genius you!

You say such sexy things.

Thank you.

[info]ex_digitalis869

July 13 2002, 16:30:03 UTC 9 years ago

Sapiosexual...nifty, but i still prefer omnisexual for myself.

[info]wolfieboy

July 16 2002, 09:22:26 UTC 9 years ago

No one is keeping you from using other terms for yourself. :)

I use to use omnisexual or pansexual depending on my mood; specifically not worrying about gender, race, or species. But I realized that I wanted to have deep conversations before, during, and after sex. Thus the genesis.

[info]t3knomanser

9 years ago

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[info]wolfieboy

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[info]galateadia

August 13 2002, 17:05:30 UTC 9 years ago

Brilliant word.
You have one more convert.
^_~

[info]nafsdiwan

September 27 2002, 23:24:49 UTC 9 years ago

Which is why I opine
That for language that's plain
As a meme that is fine
Human hearts to explain
Sapiosexuality's peculiar
For libido's engagement with brain.

(apologies to Bret Harte)

[info]wolfieboy

September 29 2002, 20:25:16 UTC 9 years ago

Re: sapiosexual verse

Thanks for the verse!
I'm honored/tickled that you created verse for this meme.

[info]nafsdiwan

9 years ago

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[info]patgreene

October 21 2002, 15:01:45 UTC 9 years ago

Finally! So that's what I am! Great word... I'm adding it to my interests, too.

[info]t3knomanser

October 22 2002, 07:14:30 UTC 9 years ago

Heh... I'd like to cast in a set of competing terms taht I use....

  • Metasexual
  • Omnisexual


Not an emphasis on the mind, as you have, but an emphasis on the individual. The person themselves, apart from gender.

[info]deliriumcrow

October 23 2002, 05:13:05 UTC 9 years ago

I like metasexual, and Ubersexual, from an earlier post, though I don't think I'll actually use any of these term to describe myself. I don't like to be labeled, and depending on how I"m feeling on a given day, it may or may not apply. And it's kinda silly to change your label every day just because, it gets confusing to everyone else. I'm just Catelike, except for when I'm not.

It's kinda funny the way different words have so many different connotation, though, that in the dictionary mean exactly the same thing.

[info]wolfieboy

9 years ago

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[info]t3knomanser

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[info]mental_erosion

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[info]flwyd

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[info]kyriani

November 12 2002, 09:32:11 UTC 9 years ago

Wonderful word

Just found this after trying to figure out what sapiosexuality meant (after seeing on the journals of several people I know). Very very cool. ^_^ Very pertinent for me, captures exactly how I would describe myself.
-Kyriani

[info]wolfieboy

November 14 2002, 03:48:52 UTC 9 years ago

Re: Wonderful word

I'm glad that you like it. I'm trying to get it common enough so that it makes it into the dictionary. I've been told that with the next edition of the OED coming out in 2010, we can expect another edition in 2060. I'm aiming for the latter date...

Have fun...

[info]mokie_sassafras

9 years ago

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[info]souldier_blue

December 24 2002, 06:42:08 UTC 9 years ago

Yay, have just added this as one of my interests ;-)

[info]aeromancer

December 30 2002, 09:22:53 UTC 9 years ago

Hmmm, yeah...

An apt and flattering term when used to describe or be described. Good work! & good luck. And I use to just think I was simply bi:)

[info]wolfieboy

November 24 2003, 01:44:37 UTC 8 years ago

Re: Hmmm, yeah...

Is anyone every just "simply bi"?
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