March 15th, 2002


Stoked on sapiosexuality

So, I'm really stoked that quite a few people are listing sapiosexuality as an interest. Considering that on Sunday, the 10th, there were only two people that had it listed as an interest. Today, there are nine. Not bad for a word that I invented in 1998.

I think much of this is the fault of jadine and her entry from yesterday. In her entry, she asked what sapiosexuality meant and so I thought it might be good for me to attempt a definition as well.

Here's an e-mail that I sent out a while back on what I mean by sapiosexual. The message was in response to "What gender do you prefer in sex and/or a relationship?"

Me? I don't care too much about the plumbing. I want an incisive, inquisitive, insightful, irreverent mind. I want someone for whom philosophical discussion is foreplay. I want someone who sometimes makes me go ouch due to their wit and evil sense of humor. I want someone that I can reach out and touch randomly. I want someone I can cuddle with.

I decided all that means that I am sapiosexual. I want to fuck with peoples minds. :)

I invented this term while on too little sleep driving up from SF in the summer of '98 and I'm trying to propagate it as much as possible. So please use it when appropriate...

But where's the gender in all that? That people that I find like that also happen to have marvelous, wonderful bodies happens to be a perq. Flesh is fun...

So, this is what I mean by sapiosexual. The last two sentences of the first paragraph aren't really a part of sapiosexuality; they're just what I want.

So, to steal a line from jadine's journal, If you like this term, you may want to add it to your Interests list by clicking here.

Edit: When describing sapiosexuality to someone at the Grind, I came up with the phrase: "You can only fuck someone for so long (5-8 hours is finite) but you can talk forever."


Puppies and parenting

So, we've got a puppy now. This puppy is actually about three years old but in many ways, she is still a puppy. She is very, very submissive and very well behaved. But she takes a lot of love and attention to keep her happy. Both Cindy and I have to be much more responsible with her than we have to be with the cats or the ferrets. It's a bit of work at times.
I suspect that being a parent is much closer to this than to taking care of our ferrets or our cats...
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For some reason, Sally, our dog is very afraid of the digital camera. If she sees it, she immediately leaves the room. I thought she had just left when I was getting ready to take a picture and so I went in the other room. She took one look at me and left, hiding behind Cindy. After I put the camera away, she came over to me very submissively, wanting affection. She has been much more submissive over the last two hours than she normally is.

The people that we got Sally from told us the they didn't do bad things to Sally but she acts like she was abused in so many different ways...
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