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Interview meme, revisited (from belleweather)

So, the shower meme is back. It's called, less confusingly, the interview meme and now seems to mandate five questions. Herein, I answer belleweather's questions.

Here are the rules:
  1. Leave a comment, saying you want to be interviewed.
  2. I'll respond, asking you five questions.
  3. You'll update your journal with my questions, answering them.
  4. You'll include some facsimile of this explanation.
  5. You'll ask other people five questions when they want to be interviewed.
1. You've discussed polyamory and sexuality on your journal several times and obviously have some experience with it on both an intellectual and an experiential level. Keeping in mind the obvious fact that we can't impart our experiences to others, what would you most want to tell someone who was just starting out on that path — regardless of whether they would listen or understand?

Probably the most important thing to do is make sure that your definitions agree. Considering that no one can agree about what polyamory means, having divergent definitions can cause problems 2, 5, 10, even 12 years down the road. Be sure that the lines of communication are kept open. Whatever happens must be talked about. Trying to spare someone hurt by not mentioning something just sets all of you up for more hurt later.

2. One of the quotes on your livejournal bio is about anarchy and talks about coming from a catholic worker's point of view. Do you consider yourself an anarchist? Do you think that faith, and particularly catholicism can go hand in hand or are they mutually exclusive. (Sorry, that's kind of two questions.)

I do consider myself an anarchist. By that, I mean that each individual person should have the right to decide what is the best action for them over a given time period. Unfortunately, there are many people who are unwilling to consider the long term effects of their actions and/or the effects their actions will have on their environs ans how that will affect them back. So, anarchism is not a currently viable government choice. One of my life goals is to move towards a world where anarchism becomes a viable choice.

As for the origin of the quote, I don't think it has anything to do with Catholicism. I just don't have a problem with taking good passages where I find them. As for whether faith "works" with anarchism, I would say that the manner in which faith expresses itself varies too much to make any sort of statement there. It does for me.

3. You seem to be more involved or attached to the inner life of your animals than most people who cohabitate with pets, which I think is very cool. Do you think you are more involved, or no? And Why?

As is true for many people with pets and no children, our animals serve as children by proxy. I have no idea whether or not Cindy and I are more involved with the inner life of our animals since I have no real way to find out what that inner life is. But both of us conjecture and at times fill in their part of a dialog that we imagine that they are sharing with us. They are also in our care, so it matter vitally to us what happens to them. Both Cindy and I get rather involved in whatever we do and taking care of our "animal friends" is a part of that.

4. What do you mean by 'promoting mindful conformity'?

Well, this came up once when forestdweller and I were chatting about something over IM. She suggested "resisted mindless conformity" for some reason or another. We chatted a bit more and I suggested the converse of "promoting mindful conformity". As important as it is to not follow something just because everyone else is doing it, I think it is also important to not not follow something just because everyone is doing it. Making a conscious choice about one or the other is important. Then again, I prefer the answer that causes the question to be made invalid. But I'm like that.

5. What would cindygerb say is your best quality?

I asked her. She said, "your lovingness".
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