Torin/Darren WhoEver (wolfieboy) wrote,
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Stoked on sapiosexuality

So, I'm really stoked that quite a few people are listing sapiosexuality as an interest. Considering that on Sunday, the 10th, there were only two people that had it listed as an interest. Today, there are nine. Not bad for a word that I invented in 1998.

I think much of this is the fault of jadine and her entry from yesterday. In her entry, she asked what sapiosexuality meant and so I thought it might be good for me to attempt a definition as well.

Here's an e-mail that I sent out a while back on what I mean by sapiosexual. The message was in response to "What gender do you prefer in sex and/or a relationship?"

Me? I don't care too much about the plumbing. I want an incisive, inquisitive, insightful, irreverent mind. I want someone for whom philosophical discussion is foreplay. I want someone who sometimes makes me go ouch due to their wit and evil sense of humor. I want someone that I can reach out and touch randomly. I want someone I can cuddle with.

I decided all that means that I am sapiosexual. I want to fuck with peoples minds. :)

I invented this term while on too little sleep driving up from SF in the summer of '98 and I'm trying to propagate it as much as possible. So please use it when appropriate...

But where's the gender in all that? That people that I find like that also happen to have marvelous, wonderful bodies happens to be a perq. Flesh is fun...

So, this is what I mean by sapiosexual. The last two sentences of the first paragraph aren't really a part of sapiosexuality; they're just what I want.

So, to steal a line from jadine's journal, If you like this term, you may want to add it to your Interests list by clicking here.

Edit: When describing sapiosexuality to someone at the Grind, I came up with the phrase: "You can only fuck someone for so long (5-8 hours is finite) but you can talk forever."

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I will help you spead your meme.

Meme! Rock! I have memes that are viral; so is this one. It will infect many.
I think I would take out the word sexuality if I were to use the term for my self. I may be physically attracted to men but I find myself attracted in all OTHER ways to the type of person you describe in your term.... Thanks to sheherezahde I've been introduced to your wonderful new word :) Thanks for creating it.
Woo-hoo! Up to 12!

I like your description better than mine. I think I'll link it from my original post.
I guess I'm pulchriheterosexual. God, I'm so shallow...
haha, i guess i'm pulchrisapiosexual then.

if i fuck your brains out, can i keep 'em?
Ooooh! You're up to 23 now. :)
Add another one.......
I will add it to the growing Suburban Intelligentsia Dictionary, which will soon be published online at (but isn't yet, so no use in checking). You'll be credited, of course.
Very interesting... please give me more information on this project....

Re: Nice one


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Re: Nice one


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9 years ago

Count me in.
Neat idea. I like my women tough, cynical and witty. Does that count? Or does it have to transcend gender?
If you're applying it to yourself, you get to define as you like. To get any use out of the word, though, your definition needs to be similar without contradicting the important parts. In this case, the important part is intelligence. Gender is more of a don't-care attribute. I don't define gender since it doesn't apply to me. If it matters to you, then you should apply gender to the degree which makes you comfortable.
ME TOO!!!1
Brilliant word. Count me in as well.
Wow, 80 users now.
Make that 298 users and 9 communities now. (It was 280 before theferrett pimped it out.)
A meme well worth spreading... I'm on board(as it were).

I've had similar success spreading the fabulous word infornography (it originally appeared in Serial Experiments Lain).
Cindy and i are currently watching Lain since I gave her the DVD boxed set for her birthday. We've just seen "Discontinuity".
your Marvelous Word has been posted to the community "bisexuality" (in case you didn't know this yet. ^^) And it's going on my interests list. :D

google has apparently heard of sapiosexuality!
they hadn't last week.
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