I've been thinking of the following quote from Mirror Dance (p. 717 of the omnibus Miles Errant):
"I think I'll always love you, some. But living with you full-time would drive me crazy. You are the most incredibly domineering person I think I've ever met."
"You're supposed to fight back", he explained. "I rely on my partner fighting back. Otherwise, I couldn't relax and be myself."
I'd say that this quote is one of the (or possibly just "the") reason behind the reasons that cindygerb and I aren't together anymore.